Get up fifteen minutes earlier in the morning. The inevitable morning mishaps will be less stressful.
Prepare for the morning the evening before. Set the breakfast table, make lunches, put out the clothes you plan to wear, etc.
Don't rely on your memory. Write down appointment times, when to pick up the laundry, when library books are due, etc. ("The palest ink is better than the most retentive memory." - Old Chinese Proverb).
Do nothing which, after being done, leads you to tell a lie.
Make duplicates of all keys. Bury a house key in a secret spot in the garden and carry a duplicate car key in your wallet, apart from your key ring.
Practice preventive maintenance. Your car, appliances, home, and relationships will be less likely to break down/fall apart "at the worst possible moment".
Be prepared to wait. A paperback cam make a wait in a post office line almost pleasant.
Procrastination is stressful. Whatever you want to do tomorrow, do today; whatever you want to do today, do it now.
Plan ahead. Don't let the gas tank get below one-quarter full; keep a well-stocked "emergency shelf" of home staples; don't wait until you're down to your last bus token or postage stamp to buy more; etc.
Don't put up with something that doesn't work right. If your alarm clock, wallet, shoe laces, windshield wipers - whatever - are a constant aggravation, get them fixed or get new ones.
Allow 15 minutes of extra time to get to appointments. Plan to arrive at an airport one hour before domestic departures.
Eliminate (or restrict) the amount of caffeine in your diet.
Always set up contingency plans, "just in case". ("If for some reasonseither of us is delayed, here's what we'll do..." kind of thing. Or, "If we get split up in the shopping center, here's where we'll meet.").
Relax your standards. The world will not end if the grass doesn't get moved this weekend.
Pollyanna-Power! For every one thing that goes wrong, there are probably 10 or 50 or 100 blessings. Count 'em!
Ask questions. Taking a few moments to repeat back directions, what someone expects of you, etc., can save hours. (The old "the hurrieder I go, the behinder I get," idea.).
Say "No!" Saying no to extra projects, social activities, and invitations you know you don't have the time or energy for takes practice, self-respect, and a belief that everyone, everyday, needs quiet time to relax and to be alone.
Unplug your phone. Want to take a long bath, meditate, sleep, or read without interruption? Drum up the courage to temporarily disconnect. (The possibility of there being a terrible emergency in the next hour or so is almost nil).
Turn "needs" into preferences. Our basic physical needs translate into food, water, and keeping warm. Everything else is a preference. Don't get attached to preferences.
Simplify, simplify, simplify.
Make friends with nonworriers. Nothing can get you into the habit of worrying faster than associating with chronic worrywarts.
Get up and stretch periodically if your job requires that you sit for extended periods.
Wear earplugs. If you need to find quiet at home, pop in some earplugs.
Get enough sleep. If necessary, use an alarm clock to remind you to go to bed.
Create order out of chaos. Organize your home and workspace so that you always know exactly where things are. Put things away where they belong and you won't have to go to through the stress of losing things.
When feeling stressed, most people tend to breathe in short, shallow breaths. When you breathe like this, stale air is not expelled, oxidation of the tissues is incomplete, and muscle tension frequently results. Check your breathing throughout the day, and before, during, and after high-pressure situations. If you find your stomach muscles are knotted and your breathing is shallow, relax all your muscles and take several deep, slow breaths. Note how, when you're relaxed, both your abdomen and chest expand when you breathe.
Writing your thoughts and feelings down (in a journal, or on paper to be thrown away) can help you clarify things and can give you a renewedperspective.
Try the following yoga technique whenever you feel the need to relax. Inhale deeply through your nose to the count of eight. Then with lipspuckered, exhale very slowly through your mouth to the count of 16, or for as long as you can. Concentrate on the long sighing sound and feelthe tension dissolve. Repeat 10 times.
Innoculate yourself against a feared event. Example: before speaking in public, take time to go over every part of the experience in your mind. Imagine what you'll wear, what the audience will look like, how you will present your talk, what the questions will be and how you willanswer them, etc. Visualize the experience the way you would have it be. You'll likely find that when the time comes to make the actual presentation, it will be "old hat" and much of your anxiety will have fled.
When the stress of having to get a job done gets in the way of getting the job done, diversion - a voluntary change in activity and/or environment - may be just what you need.
Talk it out. Discussing your problems with a trusted friend can help clear your mind of confusion so you can concentrate on problem solving.
One of the most obvious ways to avoid unnecessary stress is to select an environment (work, home, leisure) which is in line with your personal needs and desires. If you hate desk jobs, don't accept a job which requires that you sit at a desk all day. If you hate to talk politics, don't associate with people who love to talk politics, etc.
Learn to live one day at a time.
Everyday, do something you really enjoy.
Add an ounce of love to everything you do.
Take a hot bath or shower (or a cool one, in summertime) to relieve tension.
Do something for somebody else.
Focus on understanding rather on being understood, on loving rather than on being loved.
Do something that will improve your appearance. Looking better can help you feel better.
Schedule a realistic day. Avoid the tendency to schedule back-to-back appointments; allow time between appointments for a breathing spell.
Become more flexible. Some things are worth not doing perfectly and some issues are well to compromise upon.
Eliminate destructive self-talk: "I am too old to ...," "I am too fat to ...," etc.
Use your weekend time for a change of pace. If your work week is slow and patterned, make sure there is action and time for spontaneity built into your weekends. If your work week is fast-paced and full of people and deadlines, seek pace and solitude during your days off. Feel as if you are not accomplishing anything at work? Tackle a job on the weekend which you can finish to your satisfaction.
"Worry about the pennies and the dollars will take care of themselves."That is another way of saying: take care of the todays as best you can and the yesterdays and the tomorrows will take care of themselves.
Do one thing at a time. When you are with someone, be with that person and with no one or nothing else. When you are busy with a project, concentrate on doing that project and forget about everything else you have to do.
Allow yourself time - everyday - for privacy, quiet, and introspection.
If an especially "unpleasant" task faces you, do it early in the day and get it over with; then the rest of your day will be free of anxiety.
Learn to delegate responsibility to capable others.
Do not forget to take a lunch break. Try to get away from your desk or work area in body and mind, even if it is just for 15 or 20 minutes.
Forget about counting to 10. Count to 1,000 before doing something or saying anything that could make matters worse.
Have a forgiven view of events and people. Accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world.
Have an optimistic view of the world. Believe that most people are doing the best they can.
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While hard to all believe, once past withdrawal, the greatest permanent stress reducer of all is quitting smoking. Nicotine is an alkaloid and stress turns the body's urine more acidic causing the kidneys to accelerate elimination of nicotine from the bloodstream. It's the same reason why smokers smoke more when drinking alcohol, as alcohol acidifies their urine. The more stressful the event, the sooner the smoker is feeling the onset of early withdrawal. Smoking nicotine does not relieve stress but only nicotine's absence. Once finished replenishing and servicing your addiction, the tire was still flat, the bill still unpaid or the relationship was in need of mending.
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